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The Grief of Others

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The subtly powerful novel adapted into the 2015 feature film, The Grief of Others asks: is keeping a secret from a spouse always an act of infidelity? And what cost does such a secret exact on a family?

From the acclaimed author of No Book but the World and 2019's searing new novel Strangers and Cousins.

The Ryries have suffered a loss: the death of a baby just fifty-seven hours after his birth. Without words to express their grief, the parents, John and Ricky, try to return to their previous lives. Struggling to regain a semblance of normalcy for themselves and for their two older children, they find themselves pretending not only that little has changed, but that their marriage, their family, have always been intact. Yet in the aftermath of the baby's death, long-suppressed uncertainties about their relationship come roiling to the surface. A dreadful secret emerges with reverberations that reach far into their past and threaten their future.

The couple's children, ten-year-old Biscuit and thirteen-year-old Paul, responding to the unnamed tensions around them, begin to act out in exquisitely- perhaps courageously-idiosyncratic ways. But as the four family members scatter into private, isolating grief, an unexpected visitor arrives, and they all find themselves growing more alert to the sadness and burdens of others-to the grief that is part of every human life but that also carries within it the power to draw us together.

Moving, psychologically acute, and gorgeously written, The Grief of Others asks how we balance personal autonomy with the intimacy of relationships, how we balance private decisions with the obligations of belonging to a family, and how we take measure of our own sorrows in a world rife with suffering. This novel shows how one family, by finally allowing itself to experience the shared quality of grief, is able to rekindle tenderness and hope.

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    • Publisher's Weekly

      July 18, 2011
      Cohen's fourth novel is a meditation on loss, ssuffering, and secrets. The death of John and Ricky Ryrei's third child pushes the family to the brink of disintegration. The children, "Biscuit" and Paul, 10 and 13, deal in different ways: Biscuit creates private rituals and Paul, overweight and bullied, clings to his only friend, Baptiste, who also faces loss. Ricky's confession that she kept knowledge that might have saved their baby to herself pushes John away, but also results in a surprising shift in their "marital relations." The arrival of John's illegitimate daughter, Jess, brings hope to the family, but the secrets she carries will only further complicate matters. Cohen aptly illustrates the capacity to suffer privately beneath a normal exterior, succeeding best when exploring Ricky's many conflicts. Cohen seems to suggest that our inability to communicate leaves us struggling in our own private, tortured worlds. Yet, paradoxically, when feelings are finally articulated, the novel flounders. Still, this is an ambitious novel offering insight into the rift between the public and the private, and illuminating the many ways in which we deal with tragedy.

    • Kirkus

      August 1, 2011

      A mother faces the heartbreaking loss of an infant son, which inevitably changes the family dynamics.

      Ricky Ryrie and her husband John react to the death of their child in different ways. First, Ricky knows that the child was prenatally diagnosed with a serious brain defect and probably would not live long, but she keeps this diagnosis from her husband, who fully expects the birth of a healthy son. (Ricky has not considered an abortion at least in part because of her hope of a misdiagnosis.) John is perhaps more stunned by Ricky's keeping this a secret than by the medical complication of his son. But John has also had a secret past, for before he met Ricky he fathered a child, Jess, in a youthful fling. Ten years before the birth of the doomed child, his daughter Jess has gone on a camping trip with her father, Ricky, and the two younger Ryrie children, Paul and Biscuit. Shortly after the birth and death of the Ryries' baby, Jess, now 23 and pregnant, shows up again on their doorstep. Jess is unconventional and free-spirited, and Paul, now an awkward adolescent, is both tongue-tied and half in love with her. Biscuit knows that there's sadness in the household and tries to act out her grief in various ways, including spreading ashes in a river. The death of the child also brings back unsavory events from Ricky's life—for example, a brief affair from three months before her marriage to John.

      With gorgeous prose, Cohen skillfully takes us from past to present and back again as she explores the ramifications of family loss, grief and longing.   

      (COPYRIGHT (2011) KIRKUS REVIEWS/NIELSEN BUSINESS MEDIA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.)

    • Library Journal

      April 1, 2011

      The death of a newborn shatters family members, then teaches them to share one another's burdens. Cohen excels at family drama--as with her recent House Lights, called "gorgeous" (Los Angeles Times) and "a hit" (LJ)--so this should be good. And perhaps win Cohen a few more fans.

      Copyright 2011 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

    • Booklist

      September 1, 2011
      Cohen's novel limns a family's grief in the wake of a tragic loss. The death of Ricky and John Ryrie's third child shortly after his birth widens a rift already growing in the family. John is stunned to learn that Ricky knew their son wouldn't survive long. He regards her not revealing that knowledge as a betrayal even worse than the infidelity before they married that he still holds against her. Filled with anger and resentment, John puts distance between himself and Ricky and contemplates an infidelity of his own. Their son, Paul, is battling bullies at school, and their precocious daughter, Biscuit, has started cutting classes and studying cultural mourning rituals in hopes of putting the baby's death behind the family. And then Jess, John's daughter from a relationship prior to his marriage, waltzes into an already tumultuous familial drama to announce she's pregnant and has decided to keep the child. Cohen deftly explores the damage grief can cause when faced in isolation and how communing over loss makes healing possible.(Reprinted with permission of Booklist, copyright 2011, American Library Association.)

    • Library Journal

      Starred review from September 1, 2011

      Losing a newborn baby is terrible enough, but when the baby comes wrapped in a shroud of secrets, intense grief often sends family members flying apart. The Ryries are just such a family. Ricky managed a pretense of happiness after learning through a routine examination that her fetus was doomed. Her husband, John, happily employed at a fraction of his wife's salary, stays patient in the face of what he thinks is a hormonal maelstrom. Then the baby arrives and departs 57 hours later, and all emotional hell breaks loose. Ten-year-old Biscuit may have the clearest path to mourning her lost brother, if only those around her would pay attention. Bullied 13-year-old Paul is caught short when Jess, John's older daughter from a college romance, arrives unannounced for an extended stay after an eight-year absence, burdened with her own ill-timed secrets. VERDICT Cohen's (House Lights) stunning writing and ruthless, beautiful magnification of soul-crushing sorrow that threatens the Ryries' day-to-day family life mesmerizes, wounds, and possibly even heals her readers. Her courageous novel (she knows of what she writes) is to be savored. [See Prepub Alert, 3/7/11.]--Beth E. Andersen, Ann Arbor District Lib., MI

      Copyright 2011 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

    • Kirkus

      August 1, 2011

      A mother faces the heartbreaking loss of an infant son, which inevitably changes the family dynamics.

      Ricky Ryrie and her husband John react to the death of their child in different ways. First, Ricky knows that the child was prenatally diagnosed with a serious brain defect and probably would not live long, but she keeps this diagnosis from her husband, who fully expects the birth of a healthy son. (Ricky has not considered an abortion at least in part because of her hope of a misdiagnosis.) John is perhaps more stunned by Ricky's keeping this a secret than by the medical complication of his son. But John has also had a secret past, for before he met Ricky he fathered a child, Jess, in a youthful fling. Ten years before the birth of the doomed child, his daughter Jess has gone on a camping trip with her father, Ricky, and the two younger Ryrie children, Paul and Biscuit. Shortly after the birth and death of the Ryries' baby, Jess, now 23 and pregnant, shows up again on their doorstep. Jess is unconventional and free-spirited, and Paul, now an awkward adolescent, is both tongue-tied and half in love with her. Biscuit knows that there's sadness in the household and tries to act out her grief in various ways, including spreading ashes in a river. The death of the child also brings back unsavory events from Ricky's life--for example, a brief affair from three months before her marriage to John.

      With gorgeous prose, Cohen skillfully takes us from past to present and back again as she explores the ramifications of family loss, grief and longing.

      (COPYRIGHT (2011) KIRKUS REVIEWS/NIELSEN BUSINESS MEDIA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.)

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